The Strangest of Times

Is anyone else feeling this strangeness descend like a black cloak – surrounding us with fear and trepidation. If so – then let me assure you that you are not alone. We are living in a whole new world and that can create huge amounts of anxiety. I know that for the past three weeks I have at times felt totally overwhelmed by it – and how quickly it all happened. And now we cannot get away from it. It is everywhere – open a newspaper, social media, turn on the radio or TV, talk to anyone at all – it is on the tip of everyone’s tongue – and from there, directly to your ears.

It is hard to get away from.

It is at times like this that I begin to put my personal wellbeing plan into place. I revert to it when I am getting it tough – and I am getting it tough right now. So here’s my first piece of advice to you to keep well. And keep up to date with my page as I will be posting about this again, and again, and again until we see the beaches, the mountains, feel the sand between our toes and the wind in our faces – and feel safe again to be the best of ourselves (and leave the other bits behind).


When we cannot connect with others how we once did we can become isolated, anxious, depressed even. I, myself, spent most of my time out with family and friends. Now I cannot do that. I live alone – I go out once a day – so what do I do to stay connected.

First of all – I make sure I speak to someone EVERY day. Being connected online is ok – but you should consider this as a complement to your personal connection. Talking to family by phone or using technology keeps me feeling part of what is going on outside my home.

Secondly – I connect using my five senses. I put my feet on the floor every morning. I feel the water from the shower every day. I taste my breakfast, lunch and dinner. I smell the coffee in my mug. I hear the Chapel Bells ring with reassuring consistency every day, with the birdsong as the chorus to this wonderful sound. I look outside or even better go outside into my garden and look at the trees, the sky, the mess that I now have time to clean up! Always looking for the positives.

And thirdly – I connect with myself. I sing, I dance, I spend silent time away from distraction every day. What is it that makes you feel healthy. Are you spiritual – then focus on that. Are you creative – then do something creative. Are you fond of dancing – blast the music out and dance away. Online activities are everywhere at the moment – but if you can remain connected off line then you will feel great. Some ideas:

Put your Christmas lights in the window – see if your neighbours do the same. 

Get your children to design a picture for their granny and stick it on the window facing into the house.

Set up a teddy bears picnic on your front garden.

Put your favourite picture in your front window to cheer the postman up.

Connect with nature. Hug a tree in your garden, smell a flower, share pics of your favourite pet or farm animal. 

Draw a picture of a rainbow and stick it in your window.

Put a thank you note on the side of the bin for the binman to see. 

Play charades through the window, play a mannequin challenge – someone inside is the mannequin and the person outside tries to make them laugh. 

BUT my message to you is to, every day, in some way, maintain your connections with others. This is the cornerstone to your mental health and wellbeing.


When the going gets tough

“Even if the last move did not succeed, the inner command says move again.” ~ Seamus Heaney

Some say life is a bed of roses. And with roses come thorns that will inevitably cause us pain. I have a real interest in what it is that can cause us most pain as we go through life. Is it a sense of failure – past events have left us feeling that happiness will never be ours. Or is it a fear of failure that keeps is stuck in an unending loop of desperation. Hoping that things will change – that our luck will come in. Whatever it is that is making you feel that this life of your is lived in a shadow of frustrating “sameness” that leaves you flat and demotivated, then you have some questions to ask yourself:

Where does my real fear lie. Where did it come from. Do I accept it as my own reality. What would my life be like if I did not have this fear. In who’s eyes am I a failure.

As Heaney has said – “move again”. There is nothing to be gained in life by sitting still. As I say in all my wellbeing workshops – change nothing and nothing changes. NO CHANGE = NO CHANGE. So today and just for yourself – make one small change to your daily routine – try something new, think only positive things, reach out to others, be your own fear disruptor. Feel powerful, be powerful – you deserve to issue a new inner command every single time your last move did not succeed.


Welcome to At One Wellbeing

Welcome to At One Wellbeing

At One Wellbeing helps you make the most of your capabilities. Support is often required to move forward in your life and sometimes challenges can appear unsurmountable.

Business Founder, Siobhan Kearney is a Life and Executive Coach having achieved a Distinction at QQI Level 6 in Life and Executive Coaching. Not only is the qualification important – but the experience Siobhan has places her in a unique position to understand the challenges people face and how you can become stuck in a rut and find it difficult to see a clear path ahead. As CEO of a leading mental health charity for over 6 years she has a very real understanding of how easy it is for life to present difficulties, but this does not mean we become unwell as a result. With the support Siobhan offers you will find you have the answers within you – all you need is someone to guide to – to help you see the wonderful possibilities life has for you – to find the confidence to be the best version of you. She will help you confidently move forward and become unstuck.

Siobhan is also a Reiki Practitioner. If you need to find space for relaxation and peacefulness in your life, then Reiki is for you. Reiki is the name given to a system of natural healing which evolved in Japan from the experience and dedication of Dr Mikao Usui (d. 1926). Today Reiki continues to be taught by Reiki Masters who have trained in the tradition passed down from Master to student. There is no belief system attached to Reiki so anyone can receive or learn to give a Reiki treatment, the only prerequisite is the desire to be healed.

Siobhan, having a deep understanding of some of the most evidence based approaches to wellbeing, has developed a series of workshops and programmes that can be delivered to any community, group or club. These workshops and courses promote mental fitness and resilience and will help you chart the ultimate direction for your personal and professional life.
Through a coaching and relaxation approach you will be expertly guided to achieve your goals in life, become motivated to positively live your life and have the skills to recognise your capacity to be amazing.
An investment in yourself could be the best thing you ever do for YOU. In a safe and confidential environment you will learn how to overcome barriers and fulfil your own personal dreams.
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